half way journey almost done!

Discussion in 'We're Pregnant!' started by kellysweet, Mar 13, 2017.


    kellysweet New Member

    Hi ladies.. :)
    So happy to realize that everything goes well and without complications so far.. it's just one more week and we'll see our 12 week scan..hard to believe we've almost overcome the most dangerous part of our surrogacy journey . After so many years of ttc attempts we are half way to the time when our dream come true.. besides we'll have a chance to see our surrogate mother.. Though she's a mere vessel and doesn't have any physical connection to the baby. I mean that wasn't her egg, hence there's no any genes of hers that our baby could have had.. which I think right thing to do.. Still I'm so curios to get acquainted with that woman.. We were told she has two children of her own but she's only 28 .. anyway I'm very glad the clinic has so strict regulation on their selection..
    thanks everyone for your support here .. that means really lot for me xx

    Mydreammore Member

    Good day, dear! I'm happy with you! I recently got news about our surrogate had been accepted. We are on pins and needles because a new stage of our journey is starting. We want to meet her very much, but we are afraid a bit. We were told we can do it only in 3 months. Another expectation time comes.

    Yes, it was important part of our decision to adopt a surrogacy as our variant, I mean an absence of surrogate’s genetically relation to our child. I think such kind of surro when surrogate is aa owner of an egg is prohibited due to difficult law precedents. ain't I right?

    kellysweet New Member

    Great you have good news too :) yes, as far as I know the other way of surrogacy is prohibited by law (I mean when sm serves as an egg donor).. and I tend to believe it's the right way for the process.. there's quite a number of incidents when surrogate mother to the end of the pregnancy period refuses to give the child to the intended parents because she feels it as her own, as a part of her ..

    minerva71 New Member

    oooh! fab news, dear! I can imagine how you feel I guess. Although I'm pregnant personally I don't think I'm more excited than you are, maybe just a bit. 12th week it's really a crucial period in pregnancy. I can't wait till my scan, 5 weeks left after all. I understand why you want to get to know her, it's naturally. She carries your baby and you must be sure she is safe and sound. Anyway, to follow all the rules and to do the best it's in her behalf. btw, is there one pea?

    kellysweet New Member

    thanks dear! that's great you'll have some news soon too.. yes, there's just one pea.. but still I'm super excited about that .. though I would be million times happier to have two at once :) I think if everything's fine we'll go into that one more time. .. but why the question? maybe you have two of them? are you that lucky woman?

    lilly_d New Member

    Great news hon! Congratulations! I wish I could say the same one day. That seems to be wonderful clinic you deal with. I probably have to find something similar. Though I'm not considering surrogate yet, actually I haven't even tried ivf yet. I believe I should. Sorry for that pessimism. Congratulations one more time.. Hope you will like your surrogate mother. Keep us informed xx

    Mydreammore Member

    Yup, I’ve read a lot about such stories. I’d never dare to take part in the program if my sm was related to the baby. No one could give a guaranty and could promise that she didn’t feel it as her own child. And in such case the law will defend her maternal rights. There were many precedents which taught us to think correctly beforehand.
    I think the variant of gestational surrogacy is a scientific gift to everyone who wants become a parent without complications.

    feifei New Member

    Hi dear! How was your meeting with your surro mother? I understand your emotions and all anticipation you have. I was in your shoes little more than a year ago. As we've also used clinic abroad, there was no way for us to meet with our sm often. So each our scan was full of emotions! I was super excited before both first and second ultrasound checks. I can't tell in words what I was feeling before the delivery of our baby girl! It seemed I could forget how to breath from all those emotions inside) My dh even proposed to take some pills to calm down. I think he was scared I might blow up) That time was great I should say. When I remember those days of our surrogacy journey it warms my heart. Though we had to go through infertility struggle, we had chance to use surrogacy. Of course thanks to the clinic and services we were provided with, our journey was full of positive emotions. I can't believe our girl turns 2 yo in a couple of months! Time flies so fast...

    TAZZILA Member

    hello, kattysweet! I haven't seen this post before and it's so lovely. Nice to know that someone has the same great news as you. Our surrogate is to deliver a baby so sonn, that I can't even believe it's true. I used to permanent waiting but now when my dream is going to come true I feel a bit weak and scared. Never mind, just my thoughts.
    So, you were to have 12 week scan 2 weeks ago..what news? Is everything okay with your baby? Fingers crossed your little bean is fantastic xx

    kellysweet New Member

    Hi, girls ..
    Yep, I've finally met our surrogate mother. I was amazed. It's such a sweet girl of 28 years only. I couldn't believe those young women go into that for good reasons. I must admit I thought too bad of them. I spoke a bit to her and she told a lot about her life which is not easy at all. She turned out to have tree children of her own. And she is well-bred and educated lady with two diplomas but still lost her work. I understand her natural desire to help her children and provide them with everything needed at least that way. I envy her a bit and want to help her family. Life is often so unfair. I'm sure now my little emby will be absolutely secure with that woman. The scan showed it's strong and healthy and continue to develop properly so far. I'm looking forward my next scan in a few weeks. They clinic staff provides regular check-ups every month..
    Thanks everyone for your support and sharing your stories here xx

    minerva71 New Member

    Wow! Today is the day of great news, wherever I look I see BFPs, positive scan results and even news from 'brand-new-mother".
    I'm so happy that you finally met her. She is so young..but if I became a mother when I thought about it at first I would have a daughter almost of her age.
    Women become surrogate mothers for different reasons and I want to believe they do this not because of lack of money. I'm sure that most of all want to help others but as for me, the reward they get after giving a birth to a child is necessary.
    Wishing you all the best! I hope everything will be alright!x

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