It hurts...but Being the male with infertility issues, I know what a kick in the head it is to be told my baby making abilities are sub-par. I work hard to be healthy nowadays and I am willing to go to whatever lengths are necessary and available. I don't have to tell you that fear, anger, self pity, and the like can invade and overtake my psyche. I asked her an unfair question not long ago. I said, "if you knew that for better or for worse meant dealing with infertility, would you still have married me". She said "I didn't even want kids until I met you and saw what a great father you would be" and that yes she would have still married me. Her happiness is paramount to me. She also suffers from depression. I have wondered if I could deal with her inconsolable sadness indefinitely. I'm a 34 yo paramedic in central texas. My dad who is my hero says that God is my first allegiance and she is my second. With all that she has put up with for me, I have to stick it out for her. Thank you guys for posting. I am praying for all of our success and peace. Congratulations HOPE!